On Being With The Right Person: Falling in Love When You’re Not Yet Done With Yourself.

Ever heard someone says something like

“Do not fall in love or at least do not be in a relationship when you’re not yet finished with yourself”.

The definition of “finished with yourself” vary from people to people according to what their priorities in life are. But, in most places I read or most videos I watch, it talks mainly about dealing with our past, accepting our present, and be firm with our dreams. For instance, we have to already be fine with whatever bothers us in the past, enjoy our life to the fullest in the present like the typical ideal self-love post would do, and become so ambitious in life that we know what we want to achieve.

I used to buy to that belief as well. I believe in that idea so much that it took me quite a long time being alone since I feel like I haven’t finished with my past, I still cry over the thing that hurt me in the past, tho I do enjoy my current life but my past still haunt me once in a while. I also have that dream that I’m so afraid if I fall in love with someone, he’s gonna stop me from achieving that dream, or I might lose track of what I want in life.

Then, this all change when I found the right person. Yes, my lover.

He asked, “do you want to explore the possibility of us being together end up in a marriage and have a happily ever after life?” when…