How Learning to See The Beauty in ‘Waiting’ Have Made Me A More Mindful Person.

Many of us may have said that

“we hate waiting”

We see that waiting as such a waste of time. We demand everything to be fast, quick, as soon as possible, shorten the waiting time, and one in for all to cut anything related to waiting.

Here I am, contrast to most of you who hates waiting, I love waiting. Quiet… pretty much, in fact. Not that I have a very high patience level, no, but I have started to see the beauty in waiting to the point that I love it and always make myself being found in the waiting phase. Okay so perhaps before I tell you how it helps me in becoming a more mindful person, let’s first talk about how I started to see the beauty in waiting, which perhaps to most of you sounds like crazy.

Well, I think this all began with some not-so-long distance of a not-so-much of a relationship I had with someone back when I was in high-school, in 2014–2015. We cannot always meet but there are times when we can arrange a meeting, or meet unintentionally. I have always been eager to wait for that day to come and no matter how much I can’t wait to see him, I found myself enjoying the process quite much because the excitement when it’s finally time is worth of all the waiting. Waiting taught me a feeling that no other events or moments can.

In 2018, when I was in college, I always set a certain day to go to my favorite coffee house chain, and I’ll be waiting for that day to come. I’ll hold every desire to go to that place in an instant because I was broke and I need a “promotional day” to make myself go there. So, when it was ‘tumbler day’ or ‘buy 1 get 1’ day, ‘50% discount’ day, or anything with promo, that will make me be like

“this is the day, let’s go there, finallYYY!!”

haha that moment, remembering this makes me laugh a lot while writing this.

And so from that moment, although often times I find it quite annoying too, to wait, I started to shift my perspective and convinced myself that this will be worth it. The joy and excitement that comes in the end of the road of waiting cannot be compared to anything else, and that feeling can only come from a waiting moment, not from anything else. With this in mind, I find myself now do lots of waiting today.