Beyond the Wedding Vows: People Take Different Path in Their Marriage.

Teenager me would have the general idea that the next path after people getting married is for them to have kids. As much as hard it might be for some people, the goal is to have kids. I just have that idea with no judgement but would not feel bothered with people who judge those who choose the path of child-free. I have no idea back then on what it means to be in a marriage.

Coming to my early 20s, I realize that marriage holds so much more than just having kids and would start to get angry for when people criticize others choices for going child-free. I would also hate those for commenting other’s journey of having kids with having no idea at all of what the couple might have faces. Having been married myself, I am glad this feeling of anger is now occupied also with having no judgement at all for any path a couple choose after stepping in into a marriage.

I see my friends choose to leave her job and become a full-time mom, taking care of the house and their children. I see my friends choose to live in a different continent with her husband as they both have their own dreams they want to pursue and it’s just happened, the timing comes after they’re both married. I also notice there are friends of mine who choose to live quitely and only give updates to their closest ones amidst people sharing their love story online. Whichever path of marriage my friend chooses, I would support them as long as it is what they want. As long as, it makes them happy in that marriage.

After being in a marriage myself, I would understand when people says that each marriage has their own blessings and hardships. No marriage is alike to other marriage. The people inside, the situation, the background story is very bespoke making each marriage no benchmark to others. Thus, who are you to judge?

I still hate it to today when people would judge other people’s choice. If you choose to leave your job so you can give a full-time attention to your kids, then do it for you and your kids without having to judge other women who still manage to work a full-time job and take care of their kids. If you choose to have kids directly after marriage and decide to build a family of your own, then do it for you without any judgement to those who choose the path of being…