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Beyond the Wedding Vows: People Take Different Path in Their Marriage.

Anin | Suara Senar Nirwana ⑇
3 min readNov 26, 2024

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Teenager me would have the general idea that the next path after people getting married is for them to have kids. As much as hard it might be for some people, the goal is to have kids. I just have that idea with no judgement but would not feel bothered with people who judge those who choose the path of child-free. I have no idea back then on what it means to be in a marriage.

Coming to my early 20s, I realize that marriage holds so much more than just having kids and would start to get angry for when people criticize others choices for going child-free. I would also hate those for commenting other’s journey of having kids with having no idea at all of what the couple might have faces. Having been married myself, I am glad this feeling of anger is now occupied also with having no judgement at all for any path a couple choose after stepping in into a marriage.

I see my friends choose to leave her job and become a full-time mom, taking care of the house and their children. I see my friends choose to live in a different continent with her husband as they both have their own dreams they want to pursue and it’s just happened, the timing comes after they’re both married. I also notice there are friends of mine who choose to live quitely and only give updates to their closest ones amidst people sharing their…

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Anin | Suara Senar Nirwana ⑇
Anin | Suara Senar Nirwana ⑇

Written by Anin | Suara Senar Nirwana ⑇

A Muslim | Environment & Sustainable Development Policy student-researcher. Love to turn my experiences and perspectives into writings. IG: @annindsa 🍉✨🇮🇩

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